All you need is love

For the past three weeks there has been a recurring topic that I have discussed with many of my close friends and that is love and relationships. The controversial topic that is bound to get underneath our skin no matter what mood we are in.

Questions come to mind like have you been in love? How do you love? What is love to an individual? Along with many other inquiries that seem to drive us crazy in this life.

It’s one of those mysteries that we cannot define. It is strange in terms of how we function in relationships. I honestly feel that love is both a beautiful and passionate obstacle that life gives us. It is just as mysterious as any kind of human interaction even friendships can baffle us especially with a lack of communication.

One thing I did learn with past experiences with love is that communication is key. We can never function without it. That is one of the aspects in which love is mysterious because sometimes you may be able to know what your partner is saying without them even telling you or to get into the romantic cliché being able to finish each other’s sentences.

The lack of communication creates the hot and cold phase of the relationship. One second you are mad the next you are happy then you are disappointed.

The odd way from my experience that love plays into this is that you are seeing your significant other in his or her bare form. What keeps you there is what drew in from the beginning and you hope it will get back to that stage.

Is it possible to be at the very end and see all of the negativity but still return back to where the two parties started?

The way I see it is that if a couple is able to handle the fault lines on each party they will be able to get through the distorted lines of communication and progress to being better than when they first started dating.

If it lasts it shows the strength of the relationship and that the love between the two individuals did hold them together. If not then it just was not meant to be.

I have noticed particularly in my generation we all have issues with being alone. Some people force themselves to stick through the relationships despite the fact that love is not working out for them.

The idea of being single does scare people but it is actually liberating and takes away the frustration of committing to someone both emotionally and physically. That is where the idea of loving yourself comes in because as the saying goes if you don’t love yourself first no one else will.

Love is a growth process and a test of communication obstacles: fights, sex, dates and emotion pour into it. There never is an exact answer to give on what specifically defines love.

Every individual has his or her personal formula to make it work. It is an abyss that is always hard to navigate through no matter who we date.

Each relationship does put a dent in the blank slate of our lives. The remaining question is will these dents be the memories that we are proud of?