2008 Woodie Awards
Ask Traci - Serious Business
Issue date: 2/9/05 Section: Features
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Dear Traci,
I met this girl about a year-and-a-half ago. We were living in different towns at the time, but both of us were on vacation in the same place. It was out of my hands: She was too pretty and made me laugh harder than I had in months. I fell for her right away. So during the next few months we were talking, e-mailing and had instant-message dates. We even got to visit each other a few times. In the summer, we decided to start dating seriously, and it all worked out because I was planning on moving to the city where she lived anyway. This only helped to speed up the process. I couldn't wait to be with her. Since then things really have been amazing. She's my best friend.
All of that said, my problem is worrying about the future. I don't like getting caught up in the intensity of it (and I don't think she does either), but it's hard to deny it. We pretty much try to take it day by day. When it comes down to it though, I can't imagine not being with her. In another year or so, we are certain to have new opportunities to move or travel, and I want to know if it's crazy of me to consider our relationship when making some of those decisions? I'm 23. Am I too young to be thinking like this or is it OK?
Lovesick in the Lower East Side
Lovesick in the Lower East Side,
You're right; at 23, you're young yet. Look at it this way: You're lucky to have found someone you have such good chemistry with so early in the game. Think of this as a blessing in disguise, one where there is always room for time outs. Don't be afraid to blow the whistle when the time comes. Don't jump the gun though; enjoy the time you have together. You did say that this is going to happen in a year or so, right? So don't worry just yet, because that's a lot of time left on the clock. In the meantime, don't push her away by thinking about the future. This is a learning experience for the both of you during and after the relationship. When the time comes for you guys to go your separate ways, keep in contact. A little phone call now and then will keep her thinking about you. Don't over do it though; give each other some space so you both can grow independently. It sounds like you really care about her so don't give up on the relationship. After all, love is the best trophy you could win.
Traci
I met this girl about a year-and-a-half ago. We were living in different towns at the time, but both of us were on vacation in the same place. It was out of my hands: She was too pretty and made me laugh harder than I had in months. I fell for her right away. So during the next few months we were talking, e-mailing and had instant-message dates. We even got to visit each other a few times. In the summer, we decided to start dating seriously, and it all worked out because I was planning on moving to the city where she lived anyway. This only helped to speed up the process. I couldn't wait to be with her. Since then things really have been amazing. She's my best friend.
All of that said, my problem is worrying about the future. I don't like getting caught up in the intensity of it (and I don't think she does either), but it's hard to deny it. We pretty much try to take it day by day. When it comes down to it though, I can't imagine not being with her. In another year or so, we are certain to have new opportunities to move or travel, and I want to know if it's crazy of me to consider our relationship when making some of those decisions? I'm 23. Am I too young to be thinking like this or is it OK?
Lovesick in the Lower East Side
Lovesick in the Lower East Side,
You're right; at 23, you're young yet. Look at it this way: You're lucky to have found someone you have such good chemistry with so early in the game. Think of this as a blessing in disguise, one where there is always room for time outs. Don't be afraid to blow the whistle when the time comes. Don't jump the gun though; enjoy the time you have together. You did say that this is going to happen in a year or so, right? So don't worry just yet, because that's a lot of time left on the clock. In the meantime, don't push her away by thinking about the future. This is a learning experience for the both of you during and after the relationship. When the time comes for you guys to go your separate ways, keep in contact. A little phone call now and then will keep her thinking about you. Don't over do it though; give each other some space so you both can grow independently. It sounds like you really care about her so don't give up on the relationship. After all, love is the best trophy you could win.
Traci